Get Out of Your Own Way!

picture Rachel PlattenThis is a message for you. Triggered by this entertaining and light pop song “Nothing ever happens”, by the American singer and songwriter Rachel Platten. The kind of song that gets stuck in your head. Then I paid attention to the lyrics. And it makes pretty good sense to me!

But nothing ever happens if you stay in your room
And nothing ever happens if you leave the party too soon
Nothing ever happens if you don’t get hurt
And nothing ever happens if you never get dirty
Make a little space and go on, get out, go on get out

But this is first a message for myself. As I am about to get out a big way this fall.

On thursday September 10th, I officially launched the brain child of Ideas on Stage, our new seminar Women on Stage. For those who know me well, I have been talking about this for ages, for years. I was so in love with the idea of researching about this project that I kept on opening new doors, analyzing studies after studies, compiling academic articles, avidly curating blog posts, collecting business cases and refining my content for ever.

This could have gone on and on for ever and ever. And never have led to anything visible.

Until I decided to get out of my own way.

Until I got out of my safe comfortable researching forever zone.

Until I stepped out and became visible, exposed to criticisms.

Until I gave myself a deadline, and reached out to get the support from my friends and colleagues at Ideas On Stage.

I wanted to thank especially Ricardo Bonis who by his gentle and firm guidance, helped me get out of my own way, out of my head and my writing. He has been the “midwife” of Women on Stage. The last push was that moment when he made me rehearse my “pitch” aloud, over and over until it felt my real own voice.

If one day we decide to deliver this workshop with two facilitators, one man and one woman, to reflect the balanced leadership we believe in, Ricardo would be the first and best choice. Why? Because he is able to hold both the masculine and the feminine archetype inside of him and brave and courageous enough to face and accept his own vulnerability. And because we need to bring men in the room. Because bringing men into the conversation on gender equality will take a step toward breaking down the unrealistic expectations of both genders.

Meanwhile, I did it and stepped out my own way. It’s scary. I am feeling exposed and naked.

But I know I cannot go back.

The work has really started for good. Time to roll up my sleeves and walk my talk!

I can only recommend you to get out of your own way and to seek the help you need in order to achieve that. We, women, can be very good at keeping us from succeeding.

“Nothing Ever Happens”

She dreams of where she’s never been
A story starts where it should end
She keeps a bible close
And folds the pages down she needs the most

Her faded walls are closing in
So in her head she leaves again
They’ve painted ceilings blue and green
And brilliant colors she’s never seen

But nothing ever happens if you stay in your room
Nothing ever happens if you leave the party too soon
Never be a winner if you’re not in the game
And nothing ever happens if you always play it safe
Make a little space and get out of your own way

A ticket out sits on her shelf
And gathers dust upon itself
Cause chasing chance is for the brave
Maybe soon she’ll feel that way

But nothing ever happens if you stay in your room
And nothing ever happens if you leave the party too soon
Nothing ever happens if you don’t get hurt
And nothing ever happens if you never get dirty
Make a little space and go on, get out, go on get out

Leave what you don’t need
You’re free and the pieces will fall into place
You and you only who can make a little space and
And get out of your own way

She sees the sunlight through the cracks
It’s only her who holds her back
And so she takes her deepest breath
Shuts the door and walks down the steps

And nothing ever happens if you stay in your room
Nothing ever happens if you leave the party too soon
Never be a winner if you’re not in the game
And nothing ever happens if you always play it safe
Make a little space and get out of your own

Oh, get out of your own way
Get out of your own way
Oh, get out of your own way
Get out of your own way

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